How bad to be anxious! But sometimes it is inevitable. The worst thing is that many times we do not know how to deal with stress and our children end up paying the consequences. However, with these tips, at least, you can avoid hitting your kids with anxiety.
Anxiety, to a large extent, is genetic. It is one of the most common mental health conditions in our society and if it is not prevented or treated properly, it can even end up generating panic attacks or other nervous conditions. The continuous challenge of work, the economy, traffic and home causes stress to be present almost at all times. Although there are techniques to relieve anxiety, many people do not use them due to lack of time or ignorance. However, the worst thing about anxiety is that it is transmitted and that many times, unintentionally, the recipients can be our children.
Although sometimes we underestimate them and think that our children do not realize our emotions, on the contrary, they realize everything. They know us as much as we know them. Therefore, they are vulnerable to becoming contaminated with our anxiety.
According to Mayra Mendez, Ph.D., LMFT, a licensed psychotherapist in Santa Monica, California, anxiety has its roots in genetics and the environment. "We cannot control the genetic part, since there is a greater propensity for anxiety to be expressed in the offspring like any other condition," she says. My concern has a basis. Fortunately, it also has some practical solutions. In the same way that I take medication and meditate as a treatment for my own anxiety, as a parent, you can use the following practices to prevent your children from suffering from anxiety.
All parents worry about their children, but having an anxiety disorder sometimes means pushing those worries to an irrational level. Allowing your children age-appropriate experiences not only helps lead them to situations where they can cultivate their own coping mechanisms, but also allows them to put them into practice. "Is it appropriate for a 3-year-old to be only in a certain activity during a game day? If you are afraid or unsure about it, ask yourself, how can you, as a parent, make that activity safe and secure? comfortable? "By stepping back and having an objective eye, you will be able to manage some of your tendencies toward fear and panic without necessarily conveying that fear to your child.
When my son was on the balcony and my brain visualized a tragic outcome, it was catastrophic. Anxiety takes advantage of our imagination sometimes, and it is not beneficial for you or your children. Similarly, if I tell my daughter that I will not allow her to cross a busy street just to get to a friend's house, I don't need to scare her with extreme scenarios. It is not necessary to predispose our children to live in fear at all times. Instead of telling her that I don't want to find her dead on the street, I should focus on her safety in smaller, more realistic terms. Imagining the best outcome rather than the worst is one way to manage negative anticipations and control for catastrophic tendencies.
Antes de que los niños puedan entender nuestras palabras, captan otras señales. Los niños son capaces de percibir todas nuestras emociones. Si tu niño se dirige hacia un cuchillo que accidentalmente dejaste al alcance, trabaja duro para reaccionar sin pánico. En lugar de agitar tus manos frenéticamente hacia él, muévete rápidamente para tomar el cuchillo y guardarlo donde va. Al practicar primero reacciones más razonables, también te ayudará a sentirte más calmada.
Los padres de helicópteros son fáciles de burlar. Muchas personas atribuyen erróneamente la crianza en helicóptero a la idea de que pensamos que nuestros hijos son mejores que los demás, cuando la preocupación se debe a la posibilidad de que fracasaremos como padres y que nuestros hijos sufran. Pero "la crianza en helicóptero promueve la ansiedad e interfiere con que los niños desarrollen habilidades de afrontamiento y herramientas de resolución de problemas por sí mismos", dice el Dr. Méndez, así que debes tomar conciencia de la protección excesiva y limitante.
Se sincero con los pediatras de tus hijos si sufres trastorno de ansiedad o te preocupa la salud emocional de tus hijos. Al igual que le hablarías de una tos recurrente, coméntale acerca de cualquier problema emocional que te inquiete. Esto ayuda al médico a tratar de forma más precisa al paciente, así como a darte consejos apropiados.
Aprende a ser paciente y considerado contigo mismo mientras ejerces la crianza. No es un trabajo fácil. Cometerás errores, pide perdón y haz todo lo posible para controlar tu ansiedad para no cargar a tus hijos con ella. Y si alguno de tus hijos desarrolla un trastorno de ansiedad, haz lo mejor que puedas para ayudarlo a manejarlo.
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